Beloved,
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you're certainly not alone.
PSA: The very urge to control your anxiety is actually making things worse.
Let’s talk about The Control Compulsion and the chronic low grade stress and anxiety.
Imagine trying to hold onto a slippery fish; the harder you grip, the more it wriggles.
That’s what it feels like when we try to manage every aspect of our lives—especially our emotions.
When life feels chaotic, our instinct is to grab hold, to control it all.
But this compulsion to control creates a paradox.
The more we try to dictate our circumstances and emotions, the more anxious we become, spiraling into a cycle of stress that seems impossible to escape.
Your mind isn't a taskmaster; it's something to nurture and manage, a gift in this life.
It excels at organizing information, but many thoughts and mental patterns exist to be loved, dissolved, healed, and cleared—not necessarily acted upon.
True action springs from a deeper source, a movement of spirit.
What is actually more supportive is to NOT THINK, and energetically imagine the wind to sweep away and clear the mental clutter FIRST.
Then, pause and ask:
Spirit, what would you have me do?
The results?
Your higher mind’s INTENTION is in the driver’s seat, fewer regrets, and a practical roadmap for meeting every emotion with curiosity—instead of criticism
Intention helps step into and unveil the mystery of All That Is.
You’ll sense the door opening for you to observe the experience and make choice of how to respond or participate. Intention is not about a specific end.
Rather, intention is a focus on the desire of experience in this moment, which may shift in any moment of the journey.
Self-Leadership PAUSE PROMPTS for Reactivite Moments - that simply needs to be loved.
If you struggle with reactivity and self-judgment, try these prompts:
- Reaction/Judgment Separation:
When upset with your reaction, ask, “What’s the difference between my initial reaction and my judgment?”
- Emotional Timeline:
Create a brief timeline of your emotional response, noting when you could’ve made a different choice. This helps identify your intervention window.
- Parts Dialogue:
When you notice harsh self-criticism, ask, “What part of me is speaking? What does it protect me from?”
- Function Finder:
Instead of eliminating reactivity, ask, “What purpose might this reaction serve? What would make it feel safe enough to relax?”
- Third-Person Perspective:
When caught in self-judgment, speak about yourself in the third person: “What might be happening for [your name]?” This creates compassionate distance.
FINAL Belief Excavation:
For intense reactions, ask, “What does this mistake mean about me?
Is this belief true?”
Beloved,
I hope you see the shame has no space and the explorations aren’t about eliminating reactivity; they’re about building a relationship with all parts of yourself.
The goal isn’t perfect emotional regulation.
Full stop - it’s growing the capacity to meet yourself with curiosity instead of judgment when strong feelings arise.
By tuning into this inner dialogue, life deepens.
Actions align with spirit, tasks become playful, and you live more fully.
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